A new law (Mail online article) will be hopefully coming out soon about psychological abuse. Good news for some of my clientele, old and new! Sadly, this is far more prevalent in homes than people realise. The people suffering – and it isn’t always just women and children, but sometimes men too (especially psychological and emotional abuse perhaps) – cannot even see their plight because of the time spent losing their self-esteem to their abuser. Hopefully, this law – which can actually lead to imprisonment – can help those people feel safer, give them time to heal and look forward, and hopefully this will also relate to stalkers too. Research has shown that 30 per cent – or 5million – women and 16 per cent of men, around 2.5million, will experience domestic abuse during their lives.
“30% of women and 16% of men will suffer … in their lifetime” says the Mail article above
Picture by David Costello Dominici on free digital photos.com Psychological abuse is constant digs and critisism, shouting people down & controlling physical things like money, access, transport and relatiionships with family and friends - people who could help!
The Government & prime minister David Cameron show at last the law recognises control of an abuse and hopefully, authorities will have and use the new powers to safeguard people.
Just a month away from an abuser may help someone suffering at their hands (or words), but in some cases it can take a year away to realise the danger you were in and get your head clear and back on track sadly – and start to get your life back on track, too. The answer is to get out and get help.
Alcohol and abuse (article)
Why do they do it?
Abusers abuse not always because of alcohol or drugs, but the need for power and control over their situation. Perhaps. But that’s not an excuse to harm someone else – partners or children, in a relationship. And it generally won’t get better but gets worse.
There is help, there is a problem, there are answers and options. Abusers need help but it isn’t the victims job to find that help for them. It’s their job to safeguard themselves and anyone even more vulnerable that they care for (children or the elderly) …
Peace is the ultimate aim of escape for these victims – but it takes everything they have mustered over months, even years, to leave their partner – and often their home, sometimes family and friends too.
Imagine what that must be like? But being alone is preferable to ongoing disrespect, control over every part of your life and your thoughts and feelings!
I see this first hand from victims …and sometimes their abuser too, but helping them see it comes when they are ready – and accessing counselling support is a step towards getting professional, outside help to make more changes for the better!