“Respond not react” is a more controlled way to behave – but is it possible when your instinctive reaction for survival and defence mechanisms kick it, in less than a second?
Is it realistic to expect that you can stop it? Well, no. You can’t stop it. But you CAN manage the symptoms of it!
That’s where you power lies
- Knowledge – the insight and understanding of WHAT is happening to you and why
- Knowing – what to do with tips, tools and techniques to better manage your communication, needs, relationships & options
- Know – how to manage upwards and not simply wait for things that may not come your way, even if you need and want them!
- Recognise – the symptoms of increase heart rate, shallow breathing, lurching stomach, lack of hunger, need for the loo & tension
- Realise – what you can and cannot do and respond accordingly – time, space, conversation, explanation, acceptance
- Reaction – manage reactions, choose your words and behaviour, make space to choose and plan before executing them
- Responsive – flex with the changes, the blows, the unexpected and unplanned. Be ready for change all the time!
Control always begins with knowledge – with information about you, your situation, your options, your dreams!
Then you can make informed choices and more effective decisions that meet your needs and your future plans.
You can learn to know you better and what you can and can’t do realistically rather than fight a losing battle, where that energy and focus is better spent elsewhere.
Know thyself, said Sorcrates – for that is the power within to influence what is without!
Action to reduce stress include
- action to change state from anxiety to normal levels – exercises, moving position, walking outside, dancing
- then relaxing techniques to maintain the more peaceful state – mindfulness, meditation, breathing, relaxation tools