Posted on August 13, 2011
Actually Steve Pavlina’s article on this subject, which I came across whilst looking at blogging tips, states the actual concept is not so much ‘living without goals’ but just not getting so bogged down with them you cannot see past them or approach those goals flexibly – Goal Free Living article
As a coach, this is something I stress to clients – there is no point getting help on focusing on goals and developing an action plan to achieve them, and getting stressed and pressured because you have set them.
The idea is that setting goals focuses you – mind, body and soul – on what you really want in your life, and then looking at the changes necessary to get you to those goals and achieve the lifestyle you want.
Flexibility is essential to this; it is the flexibility that coaches are best working with I think – what changes as you develop resources (knowledge, skills, awareness and understanding amongst others), and how that will impact on your next steps as you work through the stages of your process …
Adapting to what happens along the path to your goal(s) is necessary – from the start right to the end, and even when those goals change, perhaps because you know better exactly what you do and don’t want when you have started on that path, or because things change that you hadn’t realised or expected and that change everything e.g. illness, loss, gain for example.
So we actually all live goal oriented to some extent, but we don’t always realise it.
Planning a holiday, a house move or a wedding – children arriving and leaving, partners coming or going one way or another, or – as now – economic and social expectations change and we have to adapt to those changes whether we like it or not.
This is what life is about and what the ‘life’ in life coaching is all about.
Whatever change – large or small – it will impact on the rest of your life and therefore affect it in some way, which needs acknowledging and managing.
So what are your goals now you know that you are goal-oriented?