Feel the Part

Your image matters.   Feelings too, so getting them matched up matters too!

Aspects of image to consider –  create

Smart is good but perhaps not always appropriate?  Well, it has to be at least a certain level of SMART to pass muster (a forces term relating to being checked for appearance and performance ready in battle and battalion image- reliable, trustworthy, keen and attention to detail, prepared and ready for action to defend people and country!)

  • That’s the standard maybe we should all aim to attain, no matter the dress code or context. The ‘urban’ focus and image my daughter adopts for her business in music and DnB …
  • In business, white shirt and black suit or LBD (little black dress) that often objectifies rather than the subjective judgements that dress styles can give to people you meet…
  • Camouflage and Jamaican colours for DnB and jungle vibes …
  • Colourful for working with children …
  • Uniforms for forces, institutions like schools and hospitals, medical professionals and more

Even if you have a casual image to meet it can be clean, well-made and well maintained and maybe a personal item that shows your Self – jewellery, colour, style.  Same Same but Different’ was a Thai call from the market stall holders with the same T-shirts at times and also similar products to sell.   Well, that applies here.  We can have a ‘uniform’ style for certain situations and contexts but you can ADD your own special attribute you want to demonstrate that shows who you are and what you believe …

Beliefs and values – spiritual, strength, development, effort, compassion or business are examples of this ..

Grooming too matters – hair, nails, make up, skin care, weight, fitness, smart clothes etc

Attitude – pleasant, open, friendly and interested v aggressive, defensive, dismissive and self-centred in networking, business service and even personal relationships …

Your signature style

Ed Sheeran and Mick Hucknall’s red hair, Beyonce’s dance moves, Pink’s attitude in dress too, the Queens hats and Kate’s formal but fun clothes style …

What makes you, you?

What do you stand for?

Who do you want to be/be seen to be?

What can make you stand out?  This might be your message too.

Since returning to the UK after travelling, people tell me I look younger – I FEEL better than I did, my mind-set HAS changed, I have more ENERGY – and this is obviously reflected in my outward image too!  My dress style has changed – more casual than suits all the time, florals and colour rather than my  previous preference of black and white (although still dominant in my wardrobe!), costume jewellery that is playful with a considered formal outfit, better make up physically and application, more care on how I look and feel.

I struggled last year with my attitude – quieter, more introverted; uncertain and self-conscious that has now developed back into my old style of personal confidence, yet far more relaxed and easy going than before!

Now for you …

Look at your Self – analyse your image and style, your choices and the feedback you get from it.

Your style?  Colours? Design(ers)? Shops and ranges?

Shoes – clean, heeled and  soled, colour and style

Suits, dress, separates or casual for work?

Colour for men – black …or brown, grey, tan, green shades and more!  Shirt colours too, shoe styles and colours.

Hair cut, colour, style – and reason … easily maintained, fun or formal, age and attitude

Self-image – projected image – real image/self

Apparently, dressing down at home reflects in our image and attitude in professional situations and personal, outside the home and relaxation!   Keeping quality casuals at home matters too and yes, perhaps it does.  Your attitude changes less than your change your clothes daily!  And it shows.

There is not right or wrong, but it does need to be:

Considered, Comfortable, Courageous, Adaptable, Flexible day to evening maybe, easy to manage and maintain, it has to ‘be you’ – don’t try to copy someone else unless it feels fright for you and expresses your beliefs and goals, your values and expectations.
Teach people how to treat you is not only for relationship behaviour but also the image you portray visually – how you look, your voice – tone, pitch, words, meaning, intention, accent and more, and how you make people feel around you – friendly, trustworthy (body language and words here too!), open, interested, interesting, comfortable and welcomed.

Body language is image too and something we can’t control so mind and body need to be in synch!  What you say must be what you really believe and mean or it WILL show and your trust levels will drop and your image tarnished a little at least!Fee