Business Networking Good and Bad

Who likes networking?  Not many people it seems!  Unless you’ve learned to get the good from it and give your best.  Otherwise you might find the bad bits too …

One young guy recently at an event couldn’t wait to get away – he physically backed off even as our eyes met (often the first step in the networking etiquette at events), yet we politely engaged conversation because I’m curious, and was on the list as one person I was particularly interested in meeting because of the business name.  And because etiquette and natural manners mean you can’t just swerve off away from your intended ‘target’ or someone you don’t think you want to speak to, if that’s how you see them (don’t!).  Although this was then uncomfortable for us both it felt and was a little superficial.   Other conversations that evening, and many others, have been warm and friendly, open and real.   It may not be that I can help them or they help me but now we know each other exists and the options are there, and we can get to know each other more

It was pointless.  He clearly didn’t see a need in talking to me, or get anything from the exchange.   Yes, exchange, not conversation, chit chat or sharing facts.  I let him go and I will probably not bother to engage him again in future as I guess he won’t with me.  It’s fine.  It happens.  I can second guess why, or I can let it go.  I could even ask him!  But I wont on this occasion.   But nor will I pass on his details should someone I know need his services…

Networking – 0 for him, whilst many for me!   I met great people, deepened several relationships and gained new respect and engagement with several others.  Yet another lady I met I ‘liked’ immediately – we connected on a deeper level, she has similar values to me, and I felt comfortable as I believe she did with me!   Some of us even bonded  a little over the option for free manicure and nails by Blow, to promote their home service.  And here I am sharing their name in the spirit of networking!   A treat + network event + unique service and nice people = great networking and business connectivity!

I still like the person-to-person connection but have developed some good contacts online, never having met them or at times, until later!   It has it’s place but it is initially surface information and yet, you can also tell a lot from the effort and content of their connections with you!  Their inner mind workings, their values and expectations, their needs and personality.   Yes, it’s a guess but I see deeper than most perhaps because of my business, my natural empathy.  And I’m not often wrong, but happy to be if I am.

And that’s the next stage of networking.  The more time you spend with people, the more you learn about them (if you give yourself the chance) and the deeper the rapport and connection – the greater the benefits!   It is the ‘jigsaw’ technique in Psychology – a way to bond, build relationships, develop understanding, tolerance and awareness of the Self and other people – and a way to grow, to personally develop and develop more respect for those people you meet in your lifetime!

Give people your time and attention.  It’s worth it.  Maybe not right now, maybe never, but you have always learned something new, added to your personal toolkit of relationships, growth and opportunity.

Time is precious, so give someone the time of day or the time of their life!   You never know how much it means for them, or how much they may need it and appreciate it.  And the rewards come later for you too …